Title: 
Infidelity - Caught In The Act

Word Count:
534

Summary:
Trust is an essential element to any relationship.
 This lies at the heart of a strong relationship. 
But, once that trust has been abused, it will be 
very hard to rebuild that into the relationship.


Keywords:
dating, online dating, flirt, seduction, relationships, love, romance, marriage, foreign brides, single parents


Article Body:
Trust is an essential element to any relationship.
 This lies at the heart of a strong relationship. 
But, once that trust has been abused, it will be 
very hard to rebuild that into the relationship.

Let's say that you have a relationship for some 
time and you really love your partner. Although, 
you have been caught having an affair by your 
girlfriend. No matter how she caught you, she saw 
the messages from your mobile, she heard you 
talking with the other or saw you together, you 
have to deal the situation if you really want to 
save your relationship. 

Infidelity causes intense emotional pain, anger, 
disbelief, fear, guilt, shame; but an affair 
doesn't  have to mean the end of your 
relationship.

Here are some useful tips that may help you save 
your relationship:

- end the affair - first of all you must end your 
affair; if you choose to stay with your 
girlfriend, you must end all interactions and 
communications with the other

- be honest- open communication with your partner 
it is very important; if she caught you in the 
act and she know now that you have been 
unfaithful to her, you have told her already many 
lies, so now you must confess;  don't deny, 
because this will make things worst; 

- apologize her - even if you like it with the 
other, show your girlfriend that you are sorry 
for the pain you caused her and promise her that 
you finished your affair; convince her that you 
really love her and you don't wanna lose her for 
a mistake

- talk to her - if she wants to know all the 
details, you've better tell her even if she will 
be hurt, and let her vent her hurt and anger; she 
will tell how she feels more than once but you 
should understand her and listen; remember that 
it is your fault that she feels like that 

- identify the issues - identify often points to 
underlying problems in your relationship; examine 
your relationship to understand what has 
contributed to the affair;some people cheat 
because they aren't getting their needs met 
inside their relationship; if she ask you why you 
did it, don't be brutal; say it the truth but in 
a diplomatic way

- be accountable - if you had an affair you must 
take responsibility for your actions

- give her some space - you both need a break  
from the emotional stress; you'd better discuss 
after she's calm down

- rebuilt trust - start with small opportunities 
to grow closer together; after infidelity, 
communication becomes incredibly strained; but if 
you don't communicate you can never heal and 
build  trust again in your relationship

- determine your shared goal - make sure that you 
both want to save your relationship

- go to a relationship counselor - to help you 
dealing with your relationship problems; it might 
really help you to save your relationship

- set groundrules - decide both some rules for 
the future in you relationship so that both feel 
safe and secure

Sometimes after passing trow a situation like 
this, the relationships becomes stronger than 
ever before. But, if it happens that your 
girlfriend doesn't want to forgive you for what 
you did, and want to end the relationship, you've 
better respect her decision.